Lockdown has meant one of two things for couples – you’re spending all of your time together or you’ve been apart for months.
Combined with the stress of work, or money, issues relationships have taken a hit.
And, no where more than in the bedroom.
After all, you can have a socially distanced chat. But… a socially distanced romp isn’t very feasible.
You may even feel a little intimidated, or nervous, about jumping back in the sheets together.
This can be called “sex fright”.
Stephanie Taylor, an intimate health expert and Managing Director of pelvic healthcare company Kegel8, is here to help.
Here are her top tips for getting your sex life back on track:
Stephanie said: “There’s no shame in feeling a little out of practice if you haven’t been intimate with your partner in a while.
“Or if you’ve spent lockdown together you may have fallen into a sexual routine that is boring or unsatisfying.
“If you want to reignite that spark in your relationship, be honest about how you feel and what you want.”
Stephanie believes that laying everything out on the table will mean there’s no awkwardness which can lead to tension.
She added: “This is the perfect time to explore, reconnect and find new things you both like.”
Practice self care
Low self-esteem is one of the biggest sex drive killers.
During lockdown, lots of us have gained a little weight, missed the gym or skipped the beauty treatments.
Stephanie added: “Looking good is all about feeling good, so take time out to focus on you.
“Take a long relaxing bath rather than a shower, invest in some at-home beauty treatments while the salons are still closed, and slip into your favourite lingerie set.”
Maybe read some erotic fiction while you’re in the bath – so you feel sexy once you’re all dolled up.
Sweat it out
Exercise is a fab libido booster.
Stephanie said: “Aerobic exercise, like running, cycling and swimming, can improve blood circulation around the body, including to your intimate area.
“Better blood flow can increase your chances of reaching climax and when you do, it will feel more intense.”
Exercise can also give your mental wellbeing a real boost.
When you work out, your body releases endorphins and lowers your levels of cortisol.
Cortisol is also known as “the stress hormone” and this can affect your sex drive.
“If you’ve been locked down alone or have gone through a dry patch in 2020, it can help to get back to basics,” comments Stephanie.
“Masturbation can help you re-familiarise yourself with all the things you personally like and give you your sexual confidence back.”
Cut it out
Eating a diet high in saturated fat and refined sugar, smoking and heavy drinking can all affect your desire to get jiggy.
So cut the booze out and enjoy a diet high in leafy greens, pulses, grains and fruits.
When you feel good, you have good sex!
Don’t suffer in silence
The sexpert said: “Sexual dysfunction is more common than you might think.
“For millions of women, pain or discomfort during sex is a reality.”
Researchers estimate at least 1 in 13 British women experience it.
Your GP or gynaecologist can discuss any issues you’re having down below and provide the right recommendations and treatments.
So, don’t suffer in silence.
You don’t have to!